At 1/5/15 04:08 AM, Sensationalism wrote: Alright y'all should help me realise who I like more. I currently like two guys and they both like me. How do I decide which one?!!?

I don't have any personal experience with this sort of thing, so I'm just brainstorming a bit here. This is probably what I'd do in this situation: date both a bit more (hang out or whatever you want to call it). I'd be totally open about it. Then maybe I'd see if I started to gravitate towards one of them a bit more than the other.

You could also get into polyamory...

At 1/6/15 01:07 AM, BrenTheMan wrote:

You could also get into polyamory...

I myself do not condone this at all. I find it unfaithful, and very; extremely ignorant. It defeats the purpose of marriage. Whatever you do, do not think of this as an option!

Moving on, I think...
You need to just straight forwardly go with your gut instinct. I personally thought I was going to die alone, and had two females "on the run" and I finally decided that one was just, better for me.

Honestly, don't lead one on, and then give her or him a heartbreak. You should know by instinct which person you prefer and is best for [strong]you[/strong]

:)

At 1/9/15 03:03 AM, Sensationalism wrote: Neither of them want me with someone else.

Then maybe I'd see if I started to gravitate towards one of them a bit more than the other.

I'm kind of thinking my heart wants one thing and my head says to do the other.

If neither of them want you, then you should stop with both of them. You want to be with somebody that wants to be with you.

At 1/11/15 12:16 AM, Sensationalism wrote: They both want me, exclusively. To themselves. They don't really want me to be with someone else.
I don't know which to pick. It sucks.

Try making a pro and cons list. That helps me when I have a hard decision.

At 1/12/15 01:53 PM, Sensationalism wrote: To summarize, Guy A is better according to my head and Guy B is better according to my heart.

Choosing A keeps everything the same, choosing B changes everything.

I'm in this same boat but sadly in a relationship. Question is, should I stay with my current clingy, jealous, grouchy gf or get with my best friend, who I've been head over heels for since we met, who knows it and feels the same, and who my current girlfriend hates.

At 3/18/15 09:36 AM, Cordyceps wrote: help

how do get gf??

laugh out loud

i d k

At 1/5/15 04:08 AM, Sensationalism wrote: Alright y'all should help me realise who I like more. I currently like two guys and they both like me. How do I decide which one?!!?

I don't know how old you are, but as long as you're not exclusive with either one, then I think it's okay to explore both for now. I wouldn't say it's cheat IF you are exclusive with neither of them. This is just my opinion, of course. I know a lot of other people would think other wise, but.... a relationship is a big deal and I want the best I can have, if that makes sense.

Sorry.... I should have checked the date on that last post, my apologies guys....... So I'll answer something different as to make amends to my stupidity...

At 4/17/15 03:21 AM, Entice wrote: I've been seeing a guy for about 8 weeks now and up until recently messed around with a few other people, but now I feel like I'm not interested in anyone but him and want exclusivity. How do I bring it up with him? Should I wait for him to ask me?

I don't think there is anything wrong with bringing it up to him. Maybe he feels the same way and thinks the same about it, too. I know the last relationship I was in, it took 3 months before we became exclusive and that wasn't by my choice. I think waiting a while to go exclusive was a good idea anyways...

At 3/18/15 09:13 AM, NekoMika wrote: Monogamy - One person relationship
Polyamory - Open relationship with more than two people

Some people prefer being with just one person (such as me) while others prefer being in an open relationship with many.

Funny thing, I was actually considering being into the whole polyamory thing for a while. Still wouldn't mind. But there's a story to this somewhere, so let me get on with it.

So, I broke up with my girlfriend of several months this summer after arguing continuously -- about four hours actually, to the point I didn't get any sleep and we had to work the next day. The arguing was and still is my biggest issue with being around this girl, that and how she refuses to accept responsibility for her actions, apologizes in a very general and/or insincere manner ("I'm sorry for everything" or "I'm sorry I suck/ruin everything."), and gets highly defensive and refuses to communicate otherwise. Anyway, so I told her I didn't want a relationship. Long story short, she ends up being in band with me at college.

Well, I end up getting with another girl over the course of band camp. Average sort, a little overweight, gauged ears, kind of insecure. Didn't really know her that well apart from chatting at camp. She's wiccan. Initial attraction was pretty strong on her end but I more or less said what the hell because she had a crush on me and I was itching to have an excuse not to brood about my ex. Second week of camp comes around, and I'm home. Another girl friends me on facebook, and I notice she's in band too, so I shoot her a message.

We end up talking the whole night, just about. There's an instant attraction, and we end up talking specific sexual preferences. I was a little taken aback at first and felt a bit guilty -- especially since I hadn't disclosed such information to my then girlfriend, even though I wasn't as comfortable with her. The other girl was blatantly flirting with me despite also feeling guilty -- and vice versa obviously, so we ended up talking until one or the other fell asleep. When we finally got back to camp, we started talking in person, and I introduced my girlfriend to her. We went to go change, and I asked if she'd be interested in inviting her into our relationship. Cue an awkward conversation in the car later, and it escalated to the three of us holding hands in a gazebo after practice, talking even more awkwardly because the two were interested more in me than anything, as I later found out.

As time went on, I found my interest dramatically shifting toward the second girl, as the first I found to be jealous, overbearing, and a little selfish. I ended up breaking up with her over the jealousy issue and pursuing the other girl. "If you were jealous, you should have just said no," I recall saying. To date, it's been one of the better decisions I made. Nearly four months later and I'm happy as can be with my girlfriend, whom I intend to marry.

I suppose, if there's a lesson to be learned, polyamory is a great compatibility test -- because if she's willing to genuinely open her arms to the other woman for your sake, she must be a keeper.

Wow

This club is still going on that's cool I remember when this was first created back in the day.

~X~

At 11/26/15 11:33 AM, XwaynecoltX wrote: Wow

This club is still going on that's cool I remember when this was first created back in the day.

~X~

Yeah, it is. Although teetering along, I must say. Maybe people just don't like to talk about love that much, or most of us are just forever alone. Nice to see a familiar face, by the way. Old people may not be hard to come by on NG, but gotta love a good veteran user. :P

Definitely getting sick of living in the same area my whole life, everyone has an opinion without knowing me the first time I open my mouth, and i'm mostly ahermitfor crying out loud, Been looking out of my shack trying to find a mate, getting some nasty remarks, Might just accept a real perma hermit status. Haven't been in a relationship for 6 years. Probably be easier buying a hoooker and try to win her heart, And then try to fix the aids.

I'm joking, But half of that is true, I might be barely in this new generation but I was still raised like the GI Gen, I get shat upon for being a decent man, My area is loaded with TMilf's But I'm not looking for luggage, The pickings are few and stealthy to find, And when I think I do either the baggage finally shows from the manufacturer himself quiet angry i'd say, or she has some very heavy mental issues that creates constant fields of "fuck you, weird asshole creep", You know, In the end i'm still single, And I can walk away with just myself, Which is where I like to be anyway, I can pick without morality issues (Btw i'm heavy on monogamy), Look at my wallet and be reminded what i'm going to buy myself for christmas. (already bought that actually, a new ride), But how old is getting too old too look?, When I was 16 I whined about this stuff like a little schoolgirl, Turned 17, Got a GF, Had a BLAST with that relationship (note.I learned everything the hard way) Went into hibernation, fuck the world, And you know, It's been working out really well, I mean I lost all my friends to drugs, half have died, and a small amount did what everyone else did, Getting drunk, Fucking, And having a baby with some guy and hope he will support it. But I'm alive.

Yeah. The single life, It's the life, To what point?, To what age?, My brain just wants something to talk to, something to look at, And I say no, no brain, I'm not ready, I'm not ready.

I look at my chest, It's my heart, Lined with sandbags and assault rifles, mortars and wire fences wrapped all around it, I wince strongly... "It's safe heart... It's safe now... I can protect you", I hear a rustle behind the fence and all I can hear is magazines being placed into weapons, bolt's slamming shut and an eerie feeling that i'm being watched. "NO!" Says my heart "NEVER!". I look away... and whisper to myself "Heh, Those defences won't last forever..."

7 years later

What a Motherfucker, just doesn't give up.

This is probably closer to a psychological issue than anything but whatever.

I've effectively allowed past experiences with three people to lock me up away from everyone, and I can't believe that anyone cares about me even if they say they do. For a while I justified this by saying that nobody really cares about anyone, but while I still believe this I realize it's a cop out because mentally I'm still singling myself out and I don't consider healthy relationships to be something I can experience. I don't know how this is impacting my interaction with others because I've always been a private person but I know that I've rejected at least a couple people solely on that pretense.

Note: I am polyamorous and have had issues with people who think I don't care about them, which has lead to abandonment and (unsurprisingly) abandonment issues.

Please help

At 1/25/16 11:55 PM, NEOSLAYRE wrote: Please help

Well, I can't give you advice if I don't know the story, at least not on staying together. However, if you're this worried about it, something tells me it's been a long time coming. If she does break up with you, you need to take a moment (or a lot of moments actually) and look at yourself. Are you happy with who you are? Why or why not? Before you can be happy with someone else, you must become happy -- or at least okay -- with who you are and where you're going. As cliche as it sounds, you don't want to bring baggage into other relationships. Be your own happiness and strength. Don't rely on others for that or base your worth in them. Nothing is attracted to a doormat but the dirty feet that grind its face in. Ya dig?

i need advicei cant find girls to date and most girls dont takeme seriously T-T it makes me very sad and angry...

Respect her love her for who she is do not try and change her give her love give her the time and communication is key if there is no communication things are hard in any type of relationship there needs to be communication. But anyways love her and show her the real you not some label or title people may place on you.

I have learned over the years that mistakes happen. And sometimes it's hard to overcome but sometimes people don't see you for you. And I guess you can lose in the end on some of those mistakes.

So in end here always do the right thing because you never know when you have a good thing till it's too late

Peach be with you all and I hope you all find love or someone special that makes your heart skip a beat.

~X~

So, this girl I was with broke up with me because she wasn't ready for a relationship yet. Right after that happens she starts dating one of my closest friends. Any thoughts or advice?

At 10/11/16 09:25 PM, Quisty wrote: Protip: never talk to an ex, they dont change and forever keep you in their heads as a backup. Ugh. Also dont talk to your ex it is just trouble. Trouble you pay for with long fights with your bf that end badly. Oh well. I guess my night is shit and I had a lot to deal with already... Ok done venting.

This is actually solid advice.

At 3/23/17 05:56 AM, Gutnacht wrote: dating advice from horny virgins

Pathetic attempt at humor at the expense of people you know nothing about -- you're either an apathetic troll or one of the twats from General. Not much difference in either case. Boring!

As for those of you frequenting the crew, figured I'd post a happy little update. By August this year, @littlemisfortune and I will have been together two years, living together on and off as school and life in general permits. Been pretty sweet. Hopefully can get a house together one of these days.

At 3/23/17 09:38 AM, Gutnacht wrote: Damn, you think so high of yourself when you're just posting about how great your relationships are. Pretty aggressive for someone who posts facebook-worthy stuff on newgrounds.

My relationship really is great, thank you. My fiancee and I both have tits and vaginas, and the sex is to die for. You'd be jealous if you had anything better to do than troll Clubs and Crews of all places.

Really though, I did only come here to drop that little tidbit. Was talking to @NekoMika earlier today and it reminded me of the thread. Then I saw this asshole. Most of you who know me know I love a good argument for the sake of it. Mostly I've been waiting for someone to have an actual question one of these days. I do counseling on the side.

At 4/14/17 07:12 AM, lumiorfo wrote: Wow, I actually need advice/help..

Cannot tell if serious or sarcasm. Either is welcome.

At 4/14/17 11:28 AM, lumiorfo wrote: Serious, It's a bit of a weird one.

Eh, I'm a weirdo. Hit me.

At 4/15/17 03:51 AM, lumiorfo wrote: It's kinda about our bouncy bouncy life..

Unless I find out you've both been teabagging me in my sleep, I'm game. Most everyone who knows me RL or NG-wise will tell you that I'm probably the furthest thing from a shy, delicate little teacup you can find. I also happen to know a lot about... bouncy times.

At 4/15/17 04:21 AM, lumiorfo wrote: Fine, So here goes. My fiancé wants a threesome and I do not.

Sorry for delay. Thought I posted this yesterday.

Well, I will say three things. One, someone wanting you to do something and you not wanting to do something is a recipe for headache. The reluctant party should be respected 9/10 times. Two, it's perfectly understandable for you to have changed your mind on something, especially if you've communicated that clearly. Three, surprises are great, but surprises of this nature on top of the above -- I'd feel like an accessory to a fetish at this point and be extremely reluctant to even consider it further. This is coming from someone who had no qualms jumping head first into an orgy with my partner. No pun intended. It sounds like you two have some communication issues. My s/o and I did, but less so now.

In retrospect, that orgy didn't really work out great. My fiancee wasn't really fully onboard/okay with the entire situation of someone else touching me or enthused about anyone else touching her -- but she never said anything about it until after because she was convinced it was something I wanted to do and she'd already told everyone that she would. Now, she still gets queasy about it and it's a touchy subject. I've just more accepted that it was meh and 80% sure I don't wanna fool around with another mixed group again because I got bored.

Now, you figure out which one of us you would be in the same situation, and that's probably going to be your experience if you somehow are convinced to do the deed. I'm not saying you shouldn't, but I'd definitely recommend you and she talk about it openly and constructively, i.e. not argue. Try to assess how important the issue is to her, why she wants to do it, why you don't want to do it, etc., and also why she evidently thought surprising you into having some other woman in bed with you both was a good idea when you haven't wanted it.

EDIT: I just realized I've been responding to a topic already covered, but I like this thread and I feel like it needs a revival. I'm just gonna leave this here.

At 12/6/17 11:11 AM, Quisty wrote: Yes, you should give time, and not pressure. Such good advice. Mistakes happen, yes, but trust has to be earned back.

Don't lie in relationships, even small lies are deadly.

If your friend removes you from facebook while you're away then you never were their friend. If you ask to be re-added and they act like they will and never do, they are not your friend. They want to play games.

Quote for truth.

Especially the lying part. I learned that the hard way. I used to be a pathological liar, and it followed me all the way from childhood through high school... even as it progressively started ruining more and more of my life. I used to lie about almost everything, sometimes for no other reason than to sound interesting. Well, that did translate, and I became quite the comedian, but it cost me a lot of relationships, until I had to finally give it up completely about a year ago -- and believe me, it was a huge, hilarious fight with myself accomplishing that.

Now I have to make a habit of being intentionally truthful, but having been on both sides, it's 100% more okay to get backlash over the truth than a lie. There's no temptation to go back and fix things. There's no guilt. And there's usually no crying. Plus instead of everyone finding out and thinking you're a douche, including yourself, your character never gets assassinated, you don't feel plastic, and people usually trust you when you need them to trust you -- like say, if someone else is spreading lies about you.

And I've had a lot of lies spread about me. Of course, having been a huge liar in the past, I consider myself lucky most people are surprised when I talk about it.

Bottom line, in a relationship, patience, honesty, and communication are your biggest assets. And never take a close relationship to mean you can say whatever you want to, no matter how hurtful it may be. On the contrary, the closer you are to someone, the more damage you can do to not just your relationship but you and your partner as rational, emotional, sane human beings. Take my word for it. I have a lot of crazy ex-girlfriends and insane membranes. Part of me wonders if we made each other that way.

Well looks like I'll be single again how nice

~X~

At 12/23/17 11:46 PM, XwaynecoltX wrote: Well looks like I'll be single again how nice

~X~

FREEDOME !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! YES !!!!!!!!!!!!1