I generally find that even the most Black of American Black Metal bands lean more towards Blackened Death than anything else.
And more often than not, I do get some flak for my taste in music. Some people assuming that all metal is just screaming and shit like that.
You know what happened once?
I brought in ...And Justice For All for music class, we had to write an essay on the dynamics of any song we could think of, and I chose Dyers Eve, when I showed the album to some people, they were perplexed by how any song could be more than 9 minutes long.
Even more embarassing, they couldn't get their heads around instrumentals.
Believe it or not, I actually found a girl who likes Metal.
...And she's not scene or emo. You'd never think it by looking at her.
Apprently, she doesn't tell a lot of people about her taste in music because the few people who do know think that you can't be a Christian (which she is) and listen to Metal.
But yeah, if you're a Metalhead, you're also an Emo, according to everyone I know who doesn't listen to it.